How it works
From verified match to the aisle — here’s how.
Six steps. The first takes four minutes; the last one ends with a wedding you actually planned. Nothing in between is left to chance or to your nerve.
Step 1 · Verify your identity
Prove you're real, once.
Phone number, then a three-second selfie liveness check. Your Verified Real seal is issued before your profile is visible to anybody.
- One phone number, one account — permanently.
- NIN or BVN optional, for a second ring on your seal.
- Your documents are never shown to other members.
About four minutes
Step 2 · Get your daily matches
Six people, once a day.
Your feed is built from prompt answers, not a photo deck. There is nothing to swipe and nothing to run out of at 2am.
- Prompt answers sit above the photos on every card.
- Reply to a specific answer to open a conversation.
- Adjust the time your feed arrives.
Every morning
Step 3 · Start gisting
Talk before you meet.
Book a structured voice session. Guided prompts, an 18-minute default, and no pressure to look presentable on camera.
- A couple of sessions is usually enough to know.
- Live video unlocks on Premium Plus, by mutual consent.
- Audio is compressed for Nigerian data plans.
2 free sessions a month on Starter
Step 4 · Commit to a date
Both of you stake a promise.
When you agree on a time and place, you each put down a few coins. You both show up, you both get them back.
- The date isn't confirmed until both stakes are down.
- Cancelling with notice costs nothing.
- The only way a stake doesn't come back is a genuine no-show.
₦500 typical stake
Step 5 · Enter Couple Mode
A private space for two.
When you're both ready, your profiles pause and Couple Mode opens: a shared timeline, milestones, and plans that live somewhere other than a chat thread.
- Both profiles pause together — no quiet browsing.
- Shared milestones: meeting families, introduction, engagement.
- Leave at any time, from either side, without drama.
Included on every plan
Step 6 · Plan the wedding
AriyaPlanner takes it from here.
The handoff is one tap. Everything you've already told Toastly — cities, families, dates — carries across into a real wedding plan.
- Introduction ceremony, traditional wedding, white wedding.
- Budgets in Naira or USD, vendor shortlists by city.
- Diaspora couples can plan a Nigerian wedding abroad.
Included on every plan
What you avoid
Five things that never happen here.
No catfish
Every profile passed liveness before you saw it.
No swipe fatigue
Six people a day, then the app gets out of your way.
No blank video calls
Every Gist arrives with something to talk about.
No no-shows
Both of you staked something on being there.
No dead end
The path continues past the chat, into a wedding.
Questions
Asked before you asked.
Anything else, our team in Lagos answers within a day — a person, not a bot.
Step one takes four minutes.
Get verified tonight and your first six matches are there when you wake up.